Viewing

Just a beautiful, peaceful day. I had an appointment to pick our cemetery plot this morning. We will have a double plot so I can be buried with my sweetheart. I knew the right spot as soon as I saw it and I’m glad it was available.

I then had an opportunity I will never forget as long as I live. I was able to help dress my husband in his temple clothes. This was the last physical act of service I will be able to do for my husband in this life and my heart was full. The feelings were indescribable.

Tonight we had so many people come for the viewing at the funeral home. Flowers came from all over and they were beautiful. So many people came in from out of town to show support and I was blown away.


We are looking forward to seeing many of you at the funeral tomorrow.

America’s Got Talent was on an hour later tonight and we were thankful for that. We gathered with our extended family after the viewing to watch our friends perform. They were amazing and we are excited to meet up with them later this week.

Missionary Monday

We have several family members currently serving missions around the world. Mondays are the days we usually get letters from them. It was very difficult for them to hear of their uncle’s death when they are so far away and unable to return.

Our nephew, Justin, got permission to call me from France. His call was so comforting. He bore his testimony in French then English of the plan of salvation, the love of God and that death is not the end.

McKenna says, “Needless to say, I’m taking this one hard but I’m continually reminded about how this separation we are going to experience with Amos is so small in the eternal plan of God. But the growth and closeness we will gain with our Savior is immeasurable. I have so much respect for the Abplanalp family and their continued faith. Not only did they have enough faith for him to be spared; they also had enough faith for him not to be. This is the kind of faith that is required from the Saints of God.”

Carlie’s letter from Texas said in part, “Hillary and Abplanalp family I LOVE YOU! I know there is literally nothing I can say to make this easier but I know that the power of Christ and His atonement is beyond anything we encounter here.”

Sheridan sent these words… “When I entered the MTC I decided I wanted to improve my prayers. I made it a goal and was working really hard at it. When Elder Anderson visited us he promised that as I prayed for strength I would know that the Lord lives. I was also blessed at the MTC to know that God knows me and loves me. When I got to Vegas I just felt a lot of adversity and really doubtful of myself and lonely.

On Saturday night I read my emails and was told my uncle Amos passed away. The neighbors underneath us were blasting Rihanna and my talk was unwritten and my companion was in the other room writing in her journal. Even though I didn’t feel like it I got on my knees and prayed for strength for myself and my family. I know my Savior lives and I know Amos will live again. I know God knows me and my family, it was one of the most powerful prayers in my life. I’m not a very outwardly emotional person but I sobbed.”

I love these missionaries and their faith strengthens me and buoys me up in these dark days.

I was up in the night tracking hurricane Irma. Amos’s dad was hit but is ok. They lost a lemon tree and went without power but they were unharmed and we are so thankful.

My childhood friend, Adrian, sent me this beautiful picture of my family. I love it so much and it reflects the letters of our sweet missionaries and their testimonies of the Savior and eternal families.

Mourn With Those That Mourn

Family members are flooding in to town for the funeral and we are being wrapped in love, food and empathy from all around. Our every need is being met aside from the need to have Amos here. I have felt him close and hope that spirit never retreats.

Kade Pearce, a young boy in my ward, drew this picture for me and brought it over after church. I was touched by his understanding and the ability for someone so young to look outside himself and have such perspective.  

Church was beautiful; the music and talks and having my sister Sarah with me. Bishop Elwood spoke about grief and mourning. I have truly felt that my burdens are being borne by so many around me. Part of the covenants we make at baptism are to “mourn with those that mourn” and “comfort those that stand in need of comfort.” I see people all around me keeping those covenants.

My sister-in-law Robin sent me a scripture just after Amos passed that Bishop repeated today from Doctrine & Covenants 42:48 “And again, it shall come to pass that he that hath faith in me to be healed, and is not appointed unto death, shall be healed.” This helped me to understand that faith, fasting and prayer are not meant to change God’s plans, but to help us align our will to His. It also helped me know that a lack of faith is not why he was taken. I’m grateful to know that Amos has a new appointment and I know he will be kept as busy as he was in this life serving others and the Lord.

Amos Abplanalp – Obituary

Amos Dean Abplanalp 1975-2017

Amos Dean Abplanalp was born December 11, 1975 in Malad, Idaho. He passed away September 7th, 2017 at Banner Gateway Medical Center in Gilbert, Arizona surrounded by his wife and children, mother and brother. He fought a courageous fight with colon cancer for a year and a half. He lost the battle, but won the war enduring well until the end.

Amos was born the third child of Dean Abplanalp and Sandra Carol Sagers. He joined his brother, Tom, and sister, Katie Jo. Three years later Abbe completed the family.

When he was two, the family moved to Blackfoot where he spent the next 17 years of his life. When he was nine, his parents divorced. His mother later met and married Evan Dance and six more siblings were added to his family.

He grew up on a potato farm where he learned to work hard. He also learned that he wanted an education.

Amos loved sports. He played little league baseball and basketball, but his real love was wrestling. He was on a state championship wrestling team at Snake River High School where he graduated in 1994.

He served in the Canada Toronto Mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. After returning honorably after two years he attended Brigham Young University and met the love of his life and eternal companion, Hillary Clair Mann.

Amos graduated from BYU with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology. He and his wife and son then moved to Arizona where he attended Arizona State University to persue a master’s degree in Criminal Justice.

He was a teacher for emotionally disabled students at Gilbert High School for 10 years and a wrestling coach. He was certified to teach multiple high school subjects and was a beloved teacher.

He and his wife had five beautiful children together who have brought them incredible joy.

He later received a Master’s Degree in Counseling and worked as a Licensed Professional Counselor at the Florence, AZ prison in the Eyman Complex.

He served in many church callings and his most recent calling was as bishop of the Magma Ranch Ward in the SanTan Valley Stake.

Just as Amos learned of his cancer diagnosis his daughter, Evie Clair, was invited to audition for the show “America’s Got Talent.” Her musical talents, bright spirit and love for her father propelled her forward in the show. She made it to the finals the night before her father passed away. He lived his last few months seeing his daughter’s dreams play out and it was the highlight of his life.

Amos affected many in his life for good through his kindness, humility, wisdom and service. To know Amos was to love him.  His faith in God and great love for his family, friends, neighbors and coworkers inspired many.

Amos is survived by his wife: Hillary; his children: Porter, Evelyn, Kirra, Ruth and Blakely; his parents: Sandra and Evan Dance (ID) and Dean and Connie Abplanalp (FL), his siblings: Tracy Beede (UT) Tom (Paije) Abplanalp (WA), Katie Jo Abplanalp (ID), Abbe (Les) Fisher (ID), Russell (Tammy) Dance (WA), Jeremy (Jennifer) Dance (WA), Dustin Dance (WA), Jennie (Josh) Cobb (Philippines), Amanda Dance (ID), Hilary (Shawn) Wilmot (WA); grandmother: Janet Abplanalp (UT).

He was preceded in death by his grandparents: Moe and Carol Sagers, Tom Abplanalp and Ora Ezell; his nephew: Daniel Gurr and mother in law: Pamalee Mann.

There will be a viewing at the funeral home Tuesday evening from 6 to 8pm at 33 N Centennial Way Mesa, AZ 85201. Flowers, etc. can be sent to that address.

The funeral services will be held 10am Wednesday, September 13th at 1521 E Bella Vista Rd San Tan Valley, AZ 85143 with a viewing at 9am.

Amos’s body will be laid to rest in the Mesa Cemetery.

Grief and Solace

We spent time at Bunker Funeral Home today making burial arrangements for Amos.

There will be a viewing at the funeral home Tuesday evening from 6 to 8pm at 33 N Centennial Way Mesa, AZ 85201. Flowers, etc. can be sent to that address.

The funeral services will be held 10am Wednesday, September 13th at 1521 E Bella Vista Rd San Tan Valley, AZ 85143 with a viewing at 9am.

Stages of grief have been apparent in all of us since Amos passed away yesterday. It comes in waves and moves between sadness, anxiety, grief, apathy, anger and love. We take turns comforting each other and breaking down when we are triggered by sentiments. We love him so much and are having difficulty defining our new world without him physically in it.

I found solace in the temple tonight with my sisters Phoebe and Sarah and my friend Rebecca. The blessings of the temple helped broaden my perspective and help me realize that we will have an eternity together. Right now is only a small moment in that big scene.

We ran into a teacher from the kids’ school at the temple who told us they had a moment of silence for Amos today and everyone was so emotional. We love our community and have been flooded with love and support from everywhere.

We need to apologize to Darin and Greg. There were two local radio spots we had planned. We couldn’t make them happen today but I’m sure things will get easier for us to talk about.

Death Has No Victory

Last night I stayed at the hospital with my sweetheart. He couldn’t communicate with me but I felt his spirit and rested well. The deep pain and anxiety of Tuesday were gone and I felt peace.

This morning I sat with Amos’s brother Tom in Amos’s hospital room. We were both struggling with understanding God’s will because we both believed Amos would be healed from this affliction. We studied and prayed and discussed. He never attempted to convince me of anything but just loved me and said that he knew all Amos wanted was for his wife to be happy.

After some pondering we came to the conclusion that faith is action. We wanted to show our trust in God and His will for Amos.

Tom received inspiration that our action should be to take Amos off life support and allow for God’s will to be done while allowing room for a miracle of healing or room for Amos to be released from a body that had been taken over by cancer.

He said the answers are usually simple but not always easy.

Grandma picked up the kids from school and brought them to the hospital. The nurses were so kind to prepare refreshments for our kids.

When our faithful children arrived we explained the situation and asked for their council in making this decision. They all agreed with tear filled eyes. We gave them each time alone with dad before turning off life-sustaining machines.







We watched him take his last breaths as he continued to breathe for about 15 minutes on his own. The children burst into tears but are now at home laughing at old home movies of daddy and remembering our great love for the most wonderful man any of us have ever known.

We find constant peace and joy in the knowledge that Jesus Christ paid the price of death so that it has no lasting victory. We will be with Amos again and we feel he can now be with us without the restrictions of his mortal body. Our faith in the Savior has grown today and our family has been strengthened forever.

Sleepless Night

Last night was both incredible and horrific. The home videos they played before  Evelyn’s performance touched me so deeply and carried into my dreams. I was only able to sleep for about an hour last night so I’m surprised I had a dream at all.

After her performance I found a quiet place back stage to tell her that her dad’s organs were failing and that he had been placed on life support. I asked her if she wanted to get home right away or wait until after the results show. Her eyes filled with tears and she seemed confused but she decided to stay.

When we got back to the hotel, the nurse who cared for Amos last night called me to tell me she didn’t believe he would make it through the night. That resulted in uncontrollable anxiety in me that led to a flare up of my own plurasy which makes it  hard for me to breathe. I lay awake most of the night with my heart racing thinking of my sweetheart and all he was going through and the extent of my love for him and the past 20 years we’ve spent together.

I prayed for the dawn to come without another phone call and it finally did.

He was sustained through the night and to me that is a miracle. It helped me to find my hope again that more miracles can come.

His dad told me the life support is holding steady for now but that he was just made aware that a hurricane is heading toward his home in Florida prompting him to get back. Thank you  Dean for everything.

Amos’s mom arrived in the night as did his brother Tom. America’s Got Talent made arrangements to get us home immediately after the live results show tonight rather than tomorrow as planned. We are so thankful to them for their kindness and understanding. Simon isn’t the only one who gets emotional about Evie Clair. Dozens of producers and staff members are going through this challenge with us and we love them for it.

I know I wasn’t the only one who had a sleepless night. My kids at home are struggling and I’m anxious to get back to them.

Today in addition to the life support, they have him on dialysis and are struggling to keep his blood pressure stable.

Hang on best friend.

The Consultation

Today is moving minute by minute and has been the most difficult and most beautiful day of my life.

My sweetheart has declined to critical condition to the point of life support. Dr. K told me Amos is in the process of dying and Bishop Elwood gave him a blessing before he was sedated that released him in God’s timing.

At this point, there is no medical solution for the multiple organ failures in his body and the only consultation we are seeking is that of the Savior who with the Father created our bodies and knows how to heal them. This picture captures my feelings today. I trust God’s will and timing and I have personally been comforted through this day.

Evie Clair is about to go live on the East Coast. Everything they have prepared for her is so beautiful and I can’t wait for you all to see it tonight. Thank you for your constant support and your unwavering faith through his incredible journey.

During this process Amos filmed a section of video where he says he isn’t afraid of dying but only afraid of not being there to see his children accomplish their goals. I feel he wants me here tonight for our beautiful daughter. We are both so happy to see her fill the world with light.

7th Annual Labor Day Olympics

Traditions are traditions and we learned how important they can be today. With dad in the hospital and half the family in LA, the kids assumed our Labor Day tradition wouldn’t happen this year. When I came home from LA unexpectedly and told them we were going to make it happen, their faces lit up. Kirra, Ruth and Porter started planning while I stayed the night at the hospital with Amos.

He is becoming unresponsive but I was able to hear him say “I love you” in a muffled tone last night. It melted my heart. As difficult as this has been, I have been blessed with peace and understanding all along the way. Amos’s step dad, Evan, called me today to strengthen my faith. Amos has such great dads who serve us in much needed ways and my love for his entire family has grown during this process.

Now for the results of the 7th Annual Abplanalp Labor Day Olympics…

 

Kirra won the shooting range

Porter won the yoga trapeze competition

Blakely won the sit ups challenge

Evelyn won the swimming races

AND…

We all agree that daddy was the overall winner! He kept his numbers stable all day and fought the worst pain imaginable. He is our Superman!

My niece, McKenna, sent a message from Russia today that goes with our Olympics theme…

I love you all and miss you so very much and my heart is with all of you at home, especially uncle Amos!! Before I share my week I wanted to share with all of you a scripture that I may have shared before because it is my absolute favorite! It is Amla 26:27, it is all about not giving up. My mission president shared a story with us during zone conference about a swimmer who had a goal to swim the English Channel. As you can imagine she was an extremely experienced swimmer. During the swim a boat would follow along side her to make sure to protect her from sharks and intervene should she become too tired. During her swim a fog set in and suddenly she lost all sight. She kept pressing forward for a time but grew very tired and without the shoreline in sight became very discouraged. She gave up 1 kilometer before the shoreline. Imagine the dissapointment she felt. This made me think about our lives. We are all swimmers trying to keep moving and breathing, trying to keep our heads above water…When the fog of life sets in it is easy to give up, or to forget why we began swimming in the first place but I want to suggest that the shore is always just in our reach… I hope you all know that I am not going to give up over here because I know that you are not giving up at home! The Lord has all power, let us trust Him.”

Tomorrow is the show. NBC prime time. See you all then for Evie Clair’s best performance ever. Don’t forget that you are the ones who decide if she continues to the finals. Please vote.

Fasting for Evie’s Dad

My friend Nicole sent me this message today… “We started this morning with a prayer and a fast for Amos and your family. Frankly we have never sat together and done this as a family. My daughter Lacey 8 year old during sacrament started crying. She was saying I’m so hungry. I told her it was good to try and fast but if she needed to she could eat. With more tears she said then Evie’s dad won’t get better!!! It was the sweetest thing. I talked to her about how Heavenly Father appreciated her effort and it’s really the first time she really fasted and it was up to her if she wanted to eat. I said a silent prayer to comfort her and let her accomplish this task because she was so concerned for Evie’s dad. She made it and fasted. Thank you for being such a good example of faith so I can follow your families example and teach my kiddos! I hope you can have some peace today.”

We are thankful for all the people who fasted for Amos today. I know good will come from it and after today, we are desperate for a little good.

While his white blood cell counts improved today, his billiruben got worse and is back up to 9.4.

The draining procedure for the lungs went well yesterday. I was feeling so good last night as they drained one and a half liters from his chest and his oxygen and heart rate numbers started looking much better. 

Sadly, the improvement didn’t last and his lungs filled back up overnight.

Our entire stake fasted for Amos today and it was wonderful to be in my ward and feel the love of our friends.

After church the kids got to come see daddy. He hasn’t been very responsive today and that was hard on all of us.

The Johnstone cousins came out to be with us at church and the hospital and helped at home. It’s so great to have family around.

Dad and Tracy and her kids have taken good care of us today and I got to meet Caitlyn’s baby. She is adorable!!

Bishop Elwood came to see how he was today but couldn’t see him because he was doing a scan. They scanned his gall bladder and we are still waiting for results on that.

Amos’s Gilbert High friends came for a minute and so did my nephew Spencer and my sister Christy.

Our friends the Rawls were fun visitors. We appreciate them so much. They brought Amos a cool Super Man lanyard like the Captain America one Jef is wearing. It even lights up. I think we’ll try it out tomorrow.