I found out today from someone who has seen the movie exactly what content has started the controversy in the new Beauty and the Beast live-action film. Remember this dresser in the animated version?
During the attack on the castle, this dresser/armoire falls on 3 men who come out dressed as females. Two of them see themselves in the mirror and run away embarrassed but one stays and admires his feminine look. At the end of the movie there is a dance and they show this man ballroom dancing with LeFou (Gaston’s sidekick) who they also show as having feminine qualities and quietly allude to him having hidden romantic feelings for Gaston.
Beauty and the Beast has always been Amos’s favorite animated Disney movie. I remember him explaining why. The reason he gave: “Belle is hot!” I wasn’t jealous of an animated character except I noticed that most of the girls he thought were “hot” were brunette and I was blonde. Maybe it isn’t about our hair color but our strong will.
In very general terms, I was raised being extremely sheltered from media. Amos was not. Similarly, I was taught not to drink caffeinated soda. Amos was not. We both had wonderful parents who just had different parenting styles. Amos will be the first to tell you that he has had lingering issues from his exposure to media and caffeine that I have never had. He has been able to overcome those things and today we are on similar spiritual levels despite the differences in our upbringing.
My point is that the choices we make for our children won’t necessarily make or break them but we are still responsible for those choices. As parents, I don’t think we should make this decision out of fear of the consequences to our children but out of the faith we walk by each day.
The other foundation I want to explain is our perceptions of homosexuality. My upbringing on this topic did not vary much from my husband’s except in that he was once or twice allowed to cross dress as a child for fun and I was not. When I was young in the early 80’s, homosexuality was not widely accepted or even discussed but my mother told me that it would become a major issue in the world when I raised my children. I’m not sure how she knew things but she did. My mother loved to read not only scriptures, but history and was filled with knowledge and wisdom that she freely and clearly shared. If only I could have her back to tell me what to do now.
When I was a little girl, I specifically remember asking her why girls couldn’t wear pants to church. She told me that it was because Heavenly Father knew that people would become more and more confused in the future and that he wanted the difference between boys and girls to be very clear in His church.
For many years I wondered how people could possibly become confused about being a boy or a girl since it seemed very obvious to me how boys were different from girls. She said that families are so very important to Heavenly Father that Satan would do anything in his power to break down the idea of strong families by confusing people about being boys or girls. She said that this pattern has happened many times in history and even destroyed entire civilizations that had earlier prospered by obedience to God’s laws.
Life is difficult as many of you have discovered, but some have learned the real life hack – that obedience to God and His plan, no matter what anyone else is doing or saying, makes life easier.
One of my favorite primary songs that brings so much simplicity and clarity to this topic begins:
Our father has a family, it’s me. It’s you, all others too. We are His children. He sent each one of us to earth, through birth to live and learn here in families. God gave us families to help us become what He wants us to be. This is how He shares His love. For the family is of God.
A father’s place is to preside, provide, to love and teach the gospel to his children. A Father leads in family prayer to share their love for Father in Heaven.
A mother’s purpose is to care, prepare, to nurture and to strengthen all her children. She teaches children to obey, to pray, to love and serve in the family.
These words have directed my life. I’ve tested them and know for myself that they are true. They have helped me understand my ideal purpose. The problem with an ideal purpose is that life is often less than ideal so people can become upset when this “ideal purpose” doesn’t come easily or at all for them in this life time. The question becomes, do we continue in faith striving towards our ideal purpose within the ideal plan that God has set for His children, or do we change the ideals to fit a different agenda? The difficult part is that we have to answer that question in the whirlwind of this corrupted world with our current limited understanding and perspective while being pulled in every direction by outside influences and even our own carnal thoughts and physical tendencies. It isn’t easy for anyone so we need to be kind to each other.
We believe the Creator of worlds without end probably has a better grasp on this issue and its eternal effects than we do so our family will seek after entertainment that aligns more fully with God’s plan for families and choose not see the new film. I’m sure the film will be very well done with much good to offer and we don’t condemn anyone who chooses to see it. We also don’t condemn anyone who supports the LGBT agenda. We love you. Your experiences have brought you to that point in your life and ours have brought us to where we are. One thing I know is that the God we love gives us all freedom to choose our own path. This is another way He shares His love.